FAQ

Why Yaoi?

Because it's the most common interest between all of us. To be honest, we could easily make this an "everything blog", but considering how many tags would have to be created, as well as the unease of having to organise the whole thing, it's better to try and have an overarching theme.

Don't you know Yaoi is problematic/fetishises gay men/weird/etc?

This is one I see a lot, though I've never personally had this argument. Yaoi is not about real-world gay men, and does not attempt to portray anything as such. Yaoi has historically always been made by women, for women, as a way for women to find escapism outside of their societal norms. As a result of this, it focuses on the relationships of men, since if there are no women involved, women are not required to project onto their relationships. There are obviously different arguments to be had for things like RPF, but this blog isn't about that, so it doesn't seem relevant to discuss.

You seem to be using the "fiction is not reality" argument, are you guys "proshippers"?

The short answer to this is no. The medium length answer is "we have media literacy", the long-form answer is basically that fiction and reality aren't 1:1, and some people are more suggestible to the ideals perpetrated in fiction, and that is dangerous. However, we are also all aware that the existence of negative things in fiction does not automatically make them bad, and that it depends on contextual circumstance and authorial intent. A story that includes rape is not an inherently bad one, it's more about how the situation is portrayed and subsequently handled. Also, as a result of human nature, every story is flawed, and there are positives and negatives to every single one.

Are you "antis", then?

Also, no. Anti shipping is just a reactionary movement to proshipping that stands to go against everything proshippers believe, and this kind of black and white logic is generally unhelpful and unproductive. Don't harass people, don't consume what you don't like, think for more than one second about what you're reading before you decide it is bad. And if you don't like something, that's okay.

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